I miss Dylan so much. It's so strange that he isn't here. Today it's been a month since Dylan died. Everything is still surreal and strange. Half the time I don't know what I'm feeling and then other times I am so sick to my stomach. I'll cry at the smallest things. (Today I checked on Kaiser's website to cancel some upcoming appointments he had scheduled and started crying when I saw he was removed from the authorized list and only saw Brianna's name).
I wanted to make a list of what I miss. So here it is:
1. I miss watching him and Brianna interacting.
2. I miss his SMELL
3. his HAIR
4. his SMILE
5. his LAUGH
6. the way he'd scrunch up when I'd pick him up
7. the occasional head bunts to my head(since he didn't have the best head control or he was just trying to see me better)
8. Lifting him
9. dressing him
10. changing his diaper (those that know him know how funny he thought that was)
11. feeling his weight while I held him
12. changing his shirt multiple times a day
13. getting annoyed with him pulling out his feeding tube while it was on, him laughing about it
14. his feeding pump
15. the sound of the motor on his bed(we've haven't touched anything in his room)
16. having supplies arrive
1. I miss watching him and Brianna interacting.
2. I miss his SMELL
3. his HAIR
4. his SMILE
5. his LAUGH
6. the way he'd scrunch up when I'd pick him up
7. the occasional head bunts to my head(since he didn't have the best head control or he was just trying to see me better)
8. Lifting him
9. dressing him
10. changing his diaper (those that know him know how funny he thought that was)
11. feeling his weight while I held him
12. changing his shirt multiple times a day
13. getting annoyed with him pulling out his feeding tube while it was on, him laughing about it
14. his feeding pump
15. the sound of the motor on his bed(we've haven't touched anything in his room)
16. having supplies arrive
17. Holding him
18. His whine
19. Having to wake up for a purpose in the middle of the night
20. Hearing him in the morning
21. Hearing him kicking the sides of his bed and laughing about it
22. Seeing him close his eyes after we said goodnight and turned on his aquarium
23. Listening to "his" music...Bessie, Greg & Steve, jazz
24. Brushing his teeth (hoping he wouldn't gag and spit up all over the place)
25. Various therapists and teachers coming on a daily basis.
26. Knowing what to expect each day
27. The smell of his special formula
28. Giving medicines
29. Talking with his doctors
30. Getting equipment he needed
31. Seeing him in his chair
32. Having to tell him constantly not to bite his fingers.
33. Seeing the callous on his fingers from biting on them
34. Seeing his excitement when his teacher would come to the house
35. Laying next to him and wondering what he thought
36. The movement of his arms and hands
37. The way he held his left arm
38. How he would light up whenever someone he knew was around him
39. HIM
40. Learning unconditional love from him
41. Dealing with "the system"
42. Fighting for him on his behalf
43. Watching him get so excited when Kalen got home
44. Hoping he wouldn't hurt his feet from all the kicking he did while in his chair.
The list goes on but I am trying to type through A LOT of tears. I never feel like I explain well enough how intense I miss him or what we are going through. He is such a special boy. His sweet presence is missed so much in our home. To me the world is a lot less happy without him here in it, because he could and would always make me laugh.
.......I long for the day that we will be together again......